A man is literally what he muses. Our life is what our thoughts make it.----James Allen. Best to think on truth.
"Veritas vos liberabit" - The truth shall set us all free.
...just musing on truth

Monday, February 21, 2011

FRIENDS AND FAMILY

(Dedicated to all my friends and followers on Facebook, Blog, Wordpress, Twitter, Hi5, Naija Stories, Google, Yahoo, Yookos, Vimeo, YouTube, MySpace, IMs and other social media.)

That friends are pearl gifts from God is not an understatement any longer to me.

From far and near, home and away, across the oceans and distant borderlands; the sweet echoes from the hearts of my friends resonate in my deepest heart.

To have friends that are truly friends is indeed more than a blessing. Friends who communicate with you all through the year; who stand in the room with you when everyone else leaves; who comfort you in lonely moments and wipe away your tears with their joy; and cheer you up to rise again each time you fall…these are great friends called family.

Friends who love you and keep the memory of you despite distance are true friends.

Someone asked me sometimes ago that who are my family? I said, “My family is not in whose blood I carry or just only the people I see everyday that we sucked from the same breast, that we eat from the same pots or that we sleep together on the same bed. My families are those I love and who love me equally.”

You are my family and I love you.

Friends are God’s idea and He has bestowed on them the strength to scale barriers and become carriers of His blessings. You overcame strong barriers from distant and near shores, and became carriers of inundating blessings which you delivered to me on my birthday. Your calls, text messages, prayers, wall messages, MMS...You are wonderful people. I love you.

Friends are one of the astounding, indisputable evidences of the existence of God, because only God can create true friends.

Friends are like fences strategically located by God in different parts of the world. They fence our lives from intending dangers or attacks coming from different parts of the world.

Friends are like trees that are planted by the rivers of water, which flourish forever.

Friends are indeed pearl gifts from God to us to always remind us of His unfailing and unfeigning love, help and tender mercies or care.

To all my friends in the continents of Africa, Asia, Australia, South America, North America and Europe – across the Pacific and Indian Oceans…I LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH.

Always remember that, “FRIENDS ARE FRIENDS FOREVER.”

That’s just the way it is.

Friday, February 18, 2011

...on Wedding Planning

Our elders used to say that, “The path of lies may be projected for long or seems forever but, one day truth will surely show up and come along with us.”

Truth is so powerful that it can offend mental judgment and refused by popular acceptance; especially, when it doesn’t conform to popular essence. Truth tastes very bitter when swallowed by a mouth full of lies and when it is received into a deceptive heart.

A survey recently carried out revealed that, over 60% of yet-to-marry women in Nigeria today look forward to getting married intrinsically because of the euphoria that wedding ceremony usually gives and all other things that are attached to it; not because they have plans for the reality of marriage (the life after wedding). Their dreams are usually focused on the wedding plans.

Though this is questionable, and I know that proponents of feminism like August Bebel and Shakespeare will want to argue this out. To be candid, let’s look intently into our society today, is it not indisputable? Come to think of it, if a home is built on wedding plans and not marriage plans, the union will only survive the nuptial night.
Therefore, proper definitions have to be given to both wedding and marriage. While a wedding is an occasion for just a day or maximum 2-3 days when you consider the pre-wedding day’s activities like wedding engagement and reception preparation; marriage is for a lifetime, that is, “till death do us part”.
A man has to dream and properly plan for his marriage before going to the altar to say “Yes, I do!”, else, he will say later that, “What did I do?” He must have seen the future and get his plans right. Common, not just daydreaming, but feasible plans and propositions.
Some may argue that some women do have plans for marriage. I agree, but they belong to the less than 40%. More so, as soon as the thoughts on wedding begin to flood their hearts, they flush marriage plans into the lagoon; thoughts like, the bridal train, the cake, the bridal gown, make up artist, bridal colour, bridal rings and all other wedding needs or necessities.
If a woman truly has a right vision or plans for her intended marriage before her wedding planning (and not in marriage), a lot of the extravagance and other extravaganza that usually complement the exchange of marital vows will be avoided. I mean, frivolous expenses will not be included in the wedding plans. The precious time spent in preparing for the occasion reception will be minimized. Believe me, culture has nothing to do with this; it’s about you having the understanding and making up your mind on this.
It’s a cultural illusion and absolute self-deception to think that the way to exhibit wealth and show case one’s social status is in wedding extravaganza. Wrong! Such should be reserved till marriage years when the reality of togetherness, responsibilities and pursuit of purpose become substantial. This isn’t to say that you should not plan well and have a hilarious and phenomenal ceremony – No! Only that moderation should be the watchword. Moderation cannot be overemphasized as there is no culture that doesn’t approve moderation in all life’s endeavours.

I tell you, this will save many a people a lot of headaches, financial debts and other hiccups.
Save the precious pre-marital, courtship or engagement period to focus and plan for marriage so as to be fulfilled. The culture of debt, incurring unnecessary and avoidable debts should be discouraged and must stop. This kind of culture is an abnormal social practice which breeds social deviants and now, we have turned it to a cultural norm.

“Cut your coat according to your size.”

“When a man is ready to settle down, what he looks for is not what most women think…” (Pearl Advocate)

He that hath ears let him hear what the voice of truth is saying. The voice of truth has spoken.

Monday, February 14, 2011

On Valentine's Night: NOT ENOUGH


>>>What kind of Val's gift do you desire???

Just like the owl’s eyes
completing a cyclic motion;
The rotation of the clock
and the look I took across the dock
seems the year now tends in tens-count.

The caravan of spices
and the alteration in the decor
along the main roads
ascertained the arrival of Valentine.
Chants of love filled the atmosphere.

He sat, he stood and he shivered;
The thought that valentine’s fine
will find him again got him aggrieved.

Just hear him out first…

They met at the rendezvous,
her arrival almost bamboozled him.
Her aesthetically well-treated façade
will intimidate even the Prince of Persia,
if they stand or sit face-to-face.

Huh! But he’s bold and confident.

In the midst of this (emotional) confusion,
only an action was needed to bring satisfaction…
An expression of love.

(What could this be?)

He gave her a quick kiss,
she said, not enough.

He gave her an i-card (interactive card),
she said, not enough.

He gave her an android mobile device,
she said not enough.

He gave her a social media navigator,
not enough.

He gave her a teddy bear,
hey, ey! Hmm, not enough.

He gave her a sleek cinderellical dress,
not enough.

He gave her key to a new Bugatti Veyron 16.4 car,
not enough.

He gave her flight ticket to Dubai,
not enough.

He gave her a Tiffany diamond jewelry box,
not enough.

(He paused for awhile)
Then, gave her a…………BIBLE,
that’s enoughhhhhhhhhhh.

What a great valentine gift to desire.

The Word of God,
that’s enough.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

The Walls of Home


What are these walls made of?
Bricks, adobe, porcelain, illuminous glass,
Paper mache, cement blocks, aluminium fills,
ply woods, stones or concrete fillings?
Huh! They are made of inestimable characters -
The fruit of the Holy Spirit – love, joy, kindness, peace,
faith/faithfulness, patience, humility,
self-control and goodness.
...creatively crafted by godliness and contentment
And arranged in courses by the bloodline.
Walls of home enclose the father, true and strong;
The mother in queenly quest,
striving to show the world God’s way is the best;
The children, led to know that truth is absolute.
The walls of home, like galleries,
hold pictures rich and rare;
All framed in golden memories,
and kept with loving care.
Some tableaux echo childish glee,
and others are serene;
While love, and faith, and loyalty
illumine every scene with astounding clarity.
Tho’ years may alter museum halls,
and banish transient arts;
The timeless joys within home’s
Walls are etched on human
hearts which stand in eternity.
Walls of home professionally finished and aesthetically ornamented
with the portrait of a real man, a real woman and godly seeds.
Walls of home make the home not only
peaceably habitable,
but also, a home away from Home (Heaven);
A home where God’s will is sought;
A home where the Lord is an honoured Guest/Dweller;
A home where the altar fires burn with white flames;
and glow with a glorious, irresistible, infectious radiance;
A home that is free from the blight of wrong, intolerance,
prejudice, inequality, disorderliness, immorality,
religious disparity and disunity...
How so much important are the walls of home.
Can we view Nigeria as our ”National” Home?
Then, with the walls of home,
A peaceful Nigeria where the Lord is our God
And where everyone is ONE is possible.
We become the happiest and strongest people on earth.
We are one big family and live in the same
Home called Nigeria.
Regardless our diversities, we are ONE.
One Big Family One Great Home.
Thank God for the gifts of the Walls of home
which enclose us all.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

THE DEMAND OF DEMOCRACY

Today, we live in a world where the major system of government that can reliably deliver desirable dividends to the populace is “democracy”. Democracy, a system of government that is of the people, by the people and for the people…This simply implies that, it is a selfless service that is out-rightly ‘others-centred’. It requires selflessness and self-sacrifice.
The process of consolidating democracy in our country saw the emergence of several politicians with selfish intentions, visions, social agenda and political programmes. This explains why we have not been enjoying the expected benefits of democracy even after about 11years of consistent democratic leadership in the nation. One can say that we have barely seen a true leader we can call a statesman, because our leaders are not leaders but rulers ruling with their rods of corruption.
How can we achieve true sustainable development, increasing nation-building and see the desired change or transformation? This question resonates in the heart of everyone seeking for a change.
50 troubled years have passed, we are still wading in the sea of confusion, increasing rate of corruption, abject poverty, youth unemployment, poor health system, bad transportation system, poor education system, miasmic economy, homelessness, epileptic or erratic power supply and socio-cultural integration almost in a dreadful state, a bizarre cynosure as we witness intermittent intra-tribal and religious mayhem in the Northern part of the country, with ungodly kidnapping which has become youth employment innovation in the Eastern part of the country. These pose serious threats to our existence and make our survival as a nation more difficult. A revolution might be inevitable to achieve some of the dreams of our fathers. After all, J.F. Kennedy (35th President of the U.S.A.) once said many years ago that, “Those who make peaceful change impossible make violent change inevitable.” The reason for the agitations, emancipations, quakes and crises in the Niger Delta. Also, the intermittent religious and intra-tribal clashes in the North.
We have paraded and seen more of political liars and rulers as leaders; people who lied and deceived us to power with their countless points agenda, with little or no achievement as a proof to ascertain their customary lies and deceptions (which have become national polity in governance). They left the nation impoverished and systematically looted the national treasury of which they refer to as “national cake”, thereby becoming richer than ever imagined. No wonder they had refused to declare their personal assets.
The demand of true democracy is truth, nothing more; that we begin to say the truth, nothing but the truth – “…for we can do nothing against the truth, but only for the truth.” 2Corinthians 13:8b.

“Democracy demands that the truth should be told always and that charlatans and saints should be called by their proper names.”
Chief Obafemi Awolowo.

They thought killing Dele Giwa, Ken Saro Wiwa and other notable journalists who stood for the truth is killing truth. They only succeeded in killing lies forgetting that truth will always prevail.
Jack Kemp said, “Democracy without morality is impossible.” Where is the morality of truth, honest, sincerity, justice, equity and freedom in our nation?
Disunity and lies are the bane of our national polity.
Gerald R. Ford (38th President of the U.S.A.) noted few decades ago that, “Truth is the glue that holds government together.” Truth in politics, nation governance and public service is not just calling a spade a spade, but walking and working one’s talk always. It is to fulfill all the promises made during political manifestoes and campaigns. It is to deliver sustainable development, meets the needs of the electorates and considerably improve the standard of living of the citizenry. It is for all public leaders to have a sense of accountability and as well to hold them accountable. It is for justice and equity to become the cause of the orders. It is to sacrificially love other humanity just as you love yourself. It is to always walk in absolute fear of God. These are what true democracy that will deliver needed results demands.
This was what our founding fathers conceived that enabled them to serve our Motherland faithfully, selflessly and sacrificially.
Have you ever taken time to meditate on our national anthem and pledge, especially, the second stanza of the anthem?

“O God of creation,
Direct our noble cause
Guide thou our leaders right;
Help our youth the truth to know
In love and honest till to grow
And living just and true
Great lofty heights attain
To build a nation where peace
And justice shall reign.”

Alas! More than 60%Nigerians cannot recite the first stanza of the National Anthem perfectly not to imagine the second stanza.
You can see that for our nation to really achieve development, attain great heights among others in the world and build her walls with abiding peace and justice; TRUTH is indispensable and UNITY is unavoidable. Both the young and the old, male and female…all must adopt the principle of truth and unite as one entity.
This is a clarion call to all that we should begin to assume our post and take a stand on truth, and hold each other hands-in-hands to lift high the banner of our nation among the nations of the world.
As 2011 general elections knock at our national door, I call on all and sundry to look for credible leaders and vote for truth not for political party. Your vote is your voice of truth; you cannot afford to be disenfranchised by standing indifferently. The success of this coming election will determine our next phase as a nation and you hold a stake to its success.
Consequently, as we all begin to promote and celebrate truth, hope is re-liven in us and I tell you, change we will see. Alfred E. Smith said many decades ago that, “All the ills of democracy can be cured by more democracy.” This is not just only a fact, it is very true. To many skeptics who believe the resurgence of military administration is what we need for transformation in our nation, I urge you to realize the need for the continuity of democracy.
Hereby, I see a new United People of Nigeria; I see a new sovereign free states standing united as one entity rise high as the King of Africa; her people bounded by brotherly love, love towards one another across our diverse ethnicity.
I see a new United People of Nigeria; a new nation where the sons and daughters of the Islamic adherents play together in peace with the sons and daughters of Christians on liberty or unity playgrounds.
I see a new United People of Nigeria; a new country where resilient, entrepreneurial and high-spirited brothers from the Niger-Delta join their fellow brothers in the East in genuine brotherhood to establish an unparallel economy we can be proud of.
I see a new United People of Nigeria; a new country where the languages we speak matter not and the differing faiths we practice become insignificant to nationhood, but the beauty of our unity despite our diversity guides our paths daily and informs our national mindsets of which we package and sell to the world.
It’s time to build a nation you and I can be proud of; a nation we dream for our children and children’s children, a place they can call their home.
I am still as hopeful as ever before now.

Happy 50th Anniversary to everyone both at home and in diaspora.

God Bless Nigeria! God Bless Us All!!