Truth is so powerful that it can offend mental judgment and refused by popular acceptance; especially, when it doesn’t conform to popular essence. Truth tastes very bitter when swallowed by a mouth full of lies and when it is received into a deceptive heart.
A survey recently carried out revealed that, over 60% of yet-to-marry women in Nigeria today look forward to getting married intrinsically because of the euphoria that wedding ceremony usually gives and all other things that are attached to it; not because they have plans for the reality of marriage (the life after wedding). Their dreams are usually focused on the wedding plans.
Though this is questionable, and I know that proponents of feminism like August Bebel and Shakespeare will want to argue this out. To be candid, let’s look intently into our society today, is it not indisputable? Come to think of it, if a home is built on wedding plans and not marriage plans, the union will only survive the nuptial night.
Therefore, proper definitions have to be given to both wedding and marriage. While a wedding is an occasion for just a day or maximum 2-3 days when you consider the pre-wedding day’s activities like wedding engagement and reception preparation; marriage is for a lifetime, that is, “till death do us part”.
A man has to dream and properly plan for his marriage before going to the altar to say “Yes, I do!”, else, he will say later that, “What did I do?” He must have seen the future and get his plans right. Common, not just daydreaming, but feasible plans and propositions.
Some may argue that some women do have plans for marriage. I agree, but they belong to the less than 40%. More so, as soon as the thoughts on wedding begin to flood their hearts, they flush marriage plans into the lagoon; thoughts like, the bridal train, the cake, the bridal gown, make up artist, bridal colour, bridal rings and all other wedding needs or necessities.
If a woman truly has a right vision or plans for her intended marriage before her wedding planning (and not in marriage), a lot of the extravagance and other extravaganza that usually complement the exchange of marital vows will be avoided. I mean, frivolous expenses will not be included in the wedding plans. The precious time spent in preparing for the occasion reception will be minimized. Believe me, culture has nothing to do with this; it’s about you having the understanding and making up your mind on this.
It’s a cultural illusion and absolute self-deception to think that the way to exhibit wealth and show case one’s social status is in wedding extravaganza. Wrong! Such should be reserved till marriage years when the reality of togetherness, responsibilities and pursuit of purpose become substantial. This isn’t to say that you should not plan well and have a hilarious and phenomenal ceremony – No! Only that moderation should be the watchword. Moderation cannot be overemphasized as there is no culture that doesn’t approve moderation in all life’s endeavours.
I tell you, this will save many a people a lot of headaches, financial debts and other hiccups.
Save the precious pre-marital, courtship or engagement period to focus and plan for marriage so as to be fulfilled. The culture of debt, incurring unnecessary and avoidable debts should be discouraged and must stop. This kind of culture is an abnormal social practice which breeds social deviants and now, we have turned it to a cultural norm.
“Cut your coat according to your size.”
“When a man is ready to settle down, what he looks for is not what most women think…” (Pearl Advocate)
He that hath ears let him hear what the voice of truth is saying. The voice of truth has spoken.
A survey recently carried out revealed that, over 60% of yet-to-marry women in Nigeria today look forward to getting married intrinsically because of the euphoria that wedding ceremony usually gives and all other things that are attached to it; not because they have plans for the reality of marriage (the life after wedding). Their dreams are usually focused on the wedding plans.
Though this is questionable, and I know that proponents of feminism like August Bebel and Shakespeare will want to argue this out. To be candid, let’s look intently into our society today, is it not indisputable? Come to think of it, if a home is built on wedding plans and not marriage plans, the union will only survive the nuptial night.
Therefore, proper definitions have to be given to both wedding and marriage. While a wedding is an occasion for just a day or maximum 2-3 days when you consider the pre-wedding day’s activities like wedding engagement and reception preparation; marriage is for a lifetime, that is, “till death do us part”.
A man has to dream and properly plan for his marriage before going to the altar to say “Yes, I do!”, else, he will say later that, “What did I do?” He must have seen the future and get his plans right. Common, not just daydreaming, but feasible plans and propositions.Some may argue that some women do have plans for marriage. I agree, but they belong to the less than 40%. More so, as soon as the thoughts on wedding begin to flood their hearts, they flush marriage plans into the lagoon; thoughts like, the bridal train, the cake, the bridal gown, make up artist, bridal colour, bridal rings and all other wedding needs or necessities.
If a woman truly has a right vision or plans for her intended marriage before her wedding planning (and not in marriage), a lot of the extravagance and other extravaganza that usually complement the exchange of marital vows will be avoided. I mean, frivolous expenses will not be included in the wedding plans. The precious time spent in preparing for the occasion reception will be minimized. Believe me, culture has nothing to do with this; it’s about you having the understanding and making up your mind on this.
It’s a cultural illusion and absolute self-deception to think that the way to exhibit wealth and show case one’s social status is in wedding extravaganza. Wrong! Such should be reserved till marriage years when the reality of togetherness, responsibilities and pursuit of purpose become substantial. This isn’t to say that you should not plan well and have a hilarious and phenomenal ceremony – No! Only that moderation should be the watchword. Moderation cannot be overemphasized as there is no culture that doesn’t approve moderation in all life’s endeavours.I tell you, this will save many a people a lot of headaches, financial debts and other hiccups.
Save the precious pre-marital, courtship or engagement period to focus and plan for marriage so as to be fulfilled. The culture of debt, incurring unnecessary and avoidable debts should be discouraged and must stop. This kind of culture is an abnormal social practice which breeds social deviants and now, we have turned it to a cultural norm.
“Cut your coat according to your size.”
“When a man is ready to settle down, what he looks for is not what most women think…” (Pearl Advocate)
He that hath ears let him hear what the voice of truth is saying. The voice of truth has spoken.
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